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Have you ever lived a period of your life in which you remained trapped in a certain mindframe or paradigm that didn’t serve you? You were doing everything you were supposed to do yet still you were unhappy? Do you know how long it took you to break free?
We can become prisoners of our own reality, prisoners of our own misconceptions about what life is and should be. We make assumptions and take conventions as truth rather than following our heart’s call to what we truly want. The heart sings a song and we don’t listen because our mind will not budge from its rulebook. Our mind says things like I have to work full time, I have to make x amount of $, I have to give my children these things, I have to have this large house, I have to have a car, I have to relinquish my joyous hobby for the day to day grind that sucks my soul…I have to stay here because of family, I have to stay in this marriage for the kids, I don’t have time to eat healthy, workout, declutter, play music, write poetry, laugh, cry, write letters to my best friend…
I remember my mother taking a long time to recover from leaving my father. She knew it was the best thing to do and it had been a long time coming, but she struggled for years to come to a new place of peace about her decisions. Then years later, in my own marriage, she told me I didn’t have to be in a situation where I struggled and fought and felt unhappy. I remember being angry with her because I felt that stepping away from something I should stick with was a ridiculous notion. Even though it was eating me up. She could clearly see my unhappiness, which I was unaware of because I had forgotten what my happiness looked like. Now I see that she was right. When the pain became too great, I finally made the change I needed to make. And it was as simple as making a decision. Unbelievably simple.
When you forget how it feels to be happy or free, you also are unable to envision such a life for yourself. Without vision, we cannot alter our reality to become what we wish for.
I know many people who are trapped in this kind of mindset. Again, it is the shoulds which enslave us, or as they say in “The Neverending Story”, it is The Nothing. It is the numb and stark position of forgetting who we truly are and what our heart truly yearns for.
I suggest we take it by the hand, that Nothing, and let it be our most beloved teacher. I suggest we stare our unhappiness in the face and smile. Find your bliss and the Nothing will disappear. We have forgotten how to feel joy. When we find it, a revolution ensues.
The longer we stay in our self-made prisons, the harder it is to get free. But the freedom is all the sweeter, and it can happen whenever you decide to step outside the unlocked gate.